"MAANO YA NA MAANO"

Here i m narrating a story which i didn't believe myself..since i haven't witnessed it even once!!
and i think you too won't believe it thinking of it as superstitious..but people of north-east india have firm faith regarding this.It had also been depicted in the serial "MAANO YA NA MAANO" anchored by irfan khan on star one
Believe it or not but it is true, one of its kind of story in the world - a man from an Indian army at Nathula border is still doing his duty even after his death some three decades back..


Born in Brondal village of Kapurthala, Punjab - Harbhajan Singh joined the 23rd Punjab Battalion on February 1966 as sepoy..
The year of 1968 when the states of Sikkim and North Bengal was under the rage of great natural catastrophic where landslides, floods and heavy rain had taken thousands of lives across the two states..
in those times training was going on for these armymen..
one day while travelling from his battalion headquarters in Tekula to Dengchukla, he fell into a fast flowing stream and drowned..
search 4 him was made with no results..ultimately an envious fellowman declared him as "bhagoda" which was a serious blow to the baba's soul
somedays later one of his colleague dreamt of baba informing him about the location of his dead body and his desire to made a samadhi for him..he didn't believe it until baba's body was found at the same location. To this he was taken aback..and to pay respect to him a samadhi was constructed near Chhokya Chho.Even after his death he warns about the dangerous activities near the border through the dreams of his fellow personels..

60 km from Gangtok towards the panoramic view of the Nathula landscape a road leads towards the valley of Kupup..Here is the shrine of Baba Harbhajan popularly known as Baba Mandir.
Baba Harbhajan has been guarding the international boundary of the two Asian giants the China and India over the last three decades.
But believe me he does it alone, Even the army men on the other side of the international wall confirms that they had seen a man riding a horse all alone patrolling the border.
Today he's the honorary captain and his samadhi is reconstructed at the junction of Kupup Gnathang road and the pathway leading to Menmoichu Lake as apart of the watershed memorial complex. He's more or less like an invisible man..and he used to get his salary which was sent 2 his family..he's respected and worshipped by the people residing in and near sikkim who believe dat baba would forecast the accidents in the valley much before it could actually happen.
every 4th october is celebrated by the armymen there as a special ceremony..on dis occasion puja is observed at the baba mandir and free meals are distributed among the devotees
Obviously these are the best days to visit baba mandir..
wen baba goes on an annual leave from September 15 to November 15 an extra caution is sought of at the border..and even the leaves of other armymen are cancelled these days.
Every year he leaves for his hometown on amritsar express where his family receives him..

I've Learned

I've learned that you cannot make someone love you,
All you can do is be someone who can be loved,
The rest is up to them..

I've learned that no matter how much I care,
some people just don't care back,
And it's not the end of the world..

I've learned that it takes years to build up trust,
and only seconds to destroy it..

I've learned that it's not what you have in your life,
but who you have in your life that counts..

I've learned that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes,
After that, you'd better know something..

I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself
to the best others can do,
but to the best you can do..

I've learned that no matter how thin you slice it,
there are always two sides..

I've learned that you can keep going,
long after you think you can't..

I've learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done,
When it needs to be done
regardless of the consequences..

I've learned that there are people who love you dearly,
but just don't know how to show it..

I've learned that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry,
but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel..

I've learned that true friendship continues to grow even over the longest distance,
Same goes for true love..

I've learned that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to,
doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have..

I've learned that no matter how good a friend is,
they're going to hurt you every once in a while
and you must forgive them for that..

I've learned that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others,
Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself..

I've learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken,
the world doesn't stop for your grief..

I've learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are,
but we are responsible for who we become..

I've learned that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean that they don't love each other,
And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do..

I've learned that sometimes you have to put the individual,
ahead of their actions..

I've learned that two people can look at the exact same thing,
and see something totally different..

I've learned that no matter the consequences,
those who are honest with themselves get farther in life..

I've learned taht your life can be changed in a matter of hours,
by people who don't even know you..

I've learned that even when you think you have no more to give,
when a friend cries out to you,
you will find the strength to help..

I've learned that writing,
as well as talking,
can ease emotional pains..

I've learned that the people you care most about in life,
are taken from you too soon..

I've learned that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice
and not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you believe..

I've learned to love
and be loved..
I've learned...

WAT IS LO\/????

A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds: "What does love mean?"

The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think...

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"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love."

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"When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth."

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"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired."

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"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK."

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"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss."

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"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen."

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"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate."
(we need a few million more THINKERS like this one on this planet)

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"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday."

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"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well."

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"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling.
He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore."

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"Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken."

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"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsome than Robert Redford."

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"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day."

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"I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones." (Now THIS is love!)

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"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you." (what an image!)

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"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross."

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"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget."

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And the final one...

Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge. The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child.

The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.

Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.

When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said,



"Nothing, I just helped him cry."

TEN SECRETS TO BE A BETTER PERSON

1st Secret - THE POWER OF THOUGHT
Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships. Affirmation can change our beliefs and thoughts about others and ourselves. If we want to love someone, we need to consider his/her needs and desires. Thinking about your ideal partner will help you recognize him/her when you meet him/her.

2nd Secret - THE POWER OF RESPECT
You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self respect, ask yourself, what do I respect about myself?? To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself, what do I respect
about them??

3rd Secret - THE POWER OF GIVING
If you want to receive one, all you have to do is give it. The more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of you, freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before committing to relationship, ask not what the other person will be able to give you but rather what will you be able to give them. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong and loving relationship is to always focus onwhat you can give instead of what you can take.

4th Secret - THE POWER OF FRIENDSHIP
To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not consist of gazing into each other's eyes but rather looking outward together in the same direction. To love someone completely you must first love him/her for who they are and not what they look like. Friendship
is the soil through which the love's seed grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.

5th Secret - THE POWER OF TOUCH
Touch is one of the most powerful statements of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.

6th Secret - THE POWER OF LETTING GO
If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you, then it's yours. If it does not, it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need their own space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go
of our fears, prejudices, ego and conditions. Today I let go of all my fears, the past has no power over me - today is the beginning of a new life!

7th Secret - THE POWER OF COMMUNICATION
When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them. Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word as it could be the last time you see him/her. If you were about to die but could make
telephone calls to the people you love, who you would call, what would say and . . . . . . why are you waiting?

8th Secret - THE POWER OF COMMITMENT
If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it and that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to
someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.

9th Secret - THE POWER OF PASSION
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone; it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated byrecreating past experiences. When you feel passionate, spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The essence of love and happiness are the same - all we need to do is to live each day with passion.

10th Secret - THE POWER OF TRUST
Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one person becomes suspicious, envious and fearful and the other person feels trapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you trust him/her completely. Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself, do I trust them completely and unreservedly? If the answer is no, then think carefully before making a commitment.





We are born with two eyes in front because we must not always look behind but see what lies ahead beyond ourselves. We are born with two ears, one left and one right; so that we can hear both sides, collect both the compliments and criticisms. We are born with a brain concealed in a
skull, then no matter how poor we are, we are still rich and no one can steal what our brain contains. We are born with two eyes, two ears but one mouth for the mouth is a sharp weapon. It can hurt, flirt and kill: remember
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talk less, listen and see more. We are born with only one heart, deep in our ribs and it reminds us to appreciate and give love from deep within. "Real beauty lies not in the physical appearance, but in the heart. Real treasure lies not in what can be seen, but what that cannot be
seen. Real love lies not in what is done and known, but in what that is done but not known."